Good evening 🌆! I pray that you all have had amazing days and even betters nights so far.
Today has been such an eventful day and had I not been surrounded by the positive people who see the best in me when I can’t see it in myself, it could have been disastrous! It is for that reason that I am inspired to share with you all a gentle yet pertinent reminder: Surround yourself with positive thinkers, people who push you to accomplish your goals and dreams because they believe in you! It is an absolute benefit to believe in yourself and have great faith BUT it is AMAZING to have people who see the good in you, better yet the GREAT in you when you can’t see it in yourself.
I am a firm believer in being transparent with the healing journey. I am blessed to have such an amazing support system and people who not only believe in me and what I am doing here at A.B.I.T.S., but believe in what I am standing for. Healing, balance, mental health wellness, community and self-love. As I continue to partner with different people, community and national resources, more people get the chance to share along in my journey, gain extra support for their own healing journeys, and also gain a whole network of people including myself who believe in them and see the greatness in them.
So this evening, I just wanted to share this reminder and also accompany it with a thank you to all of the amazing people not only in my corner, but who are checking in daily and joining me in this journey to healing. You are ALL AMAZING.
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Remember, were all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good evening everyone! Prayerfully you are all well today.
Here is a moment of unfiltered transparency. How many of you have put thought to just how traumatic this pandemic has been? I know I can only speak from my point of view, but this has been hard to handle. Imagine watching your loved one being wheeled out on an ambulance stretcher. Now imagine never seeing them again. That is our reality. My son's and my life have been forever changed.
Once I found out that my boyfriend VJ had COVID, I went into complete overdrive. I had already been cleaning and making sure we all had space between us daily, but that severely increased when he was admitted into the hospital. I began cleaning and disinfecting areas that I had cleaned just hours before daily. I cleaned so much that my hands became raw. Can you imagine cleaning so much and so hard that it hurt to simply wash your hands with lukewarm water? That had become my life. Just four days after VJ was admitted to the hospital, I developed a sinus headache. I placed no thought to the fact that I could have COVID at that time. I set an online appointment with my doctor because VJ's test had come back positive, and she needed to know I had contact with him. Long story short, she sent me to get tested and my results came in the next day. Positive. One word changed my whole life in seconds. From the moment my test results came in, my mission no longer became prevention but SURVIVAL.
I began drastically drinking warm liquids, disinfecting, and making myself cough several times throughout the day. I made myself cough so much and so hard that I bruised my ribs. Day after day, VJ declined. He went from being on a small flow of oxygen to intubated in four days. My son developed a fever for ONE DAY. When his temperature spiked, I went into serious panic mode. I called my mother, my son's doctor and they assured me that his temperature was not that high and to give him Tylenol. I treated him with Tylenol and Motrin and his fever went away that same night and never returned. Still daily, I began to feel better after only developing a sinus infection and VJ declined.
I was more stressed than I had ever been. I was receiving multiple calls daily from ICU doctors wanting me to make life decisions and it was so hard for me to wrap my mind around all that was occurring. By my first week of being infected, I felt 90% better. I still had to deal with the fact that VJ was becoming worse. It got so bad that by the 15th day, ICU doctors were preparing me for the fact that he would not be coming home. He was in ARDS (acute respiratory distress syndrome) and was no longer a candidate to even receive Remdesivir. Yet, despite all of this occurring daily, I was in survival mode.
Daily life was exhausting! For 23 days, we were in complete isolation. We could not see or be around our loved ones. My mother was going to the grocery store for us and had to drop the bags off at the door outside. She was trying to comfort and calm me as best she could while worrying about us herself. On Saturday, April 18, 2020, VJ lost his battle with COVID. I still had to go on. I have Claven, he is well and I cannot stop because of this. He was dead, I was not.
Now the country is reopening at a drastically fast rate (a conversation for another day). I have been on a battlefield surviving. I haven't had the time to stop and think about the trauma that my son and I experienced as a result of this pandemic. It wasn't until yesterday when cleaning out my phone that I realized that I haven't deleted any of the texts VJ and I had. I woke up today with a slightly sore throat and I panicked. I jumped up and bleached everything in the house twice, took Mucinex, and checked my temperature. Once my temperature reading showed 98.6, I began to calm down. I drank some water and realized that my anxiety jump-started my panic disorder. This is how traumatizing this virus has been. This is also a keypoint in how mental illness works.
I struggle daily with making sure that I get out for some air but going overboard in protecting myself. For someone like myself, suffering from Complex PTSD, anxiety, major depressive disorder, and panic disorder, this virus is a thorn in the side. This virus has given my son anxiety and PTSD in its own way. If I am gone for longer than normal (even though he is with his Grandmother, he panics). He is almost obsessed with talking about death, God, and heaven.
This is my reality. Can you imagine? Despite all that is going on, I work on healing daily. I am interested in how this virus affected your life. What are the ways you have coped with quarantine? How do you feel now that the world is reopening?
Take a moment to think about these questions and let me know your answers. Remember, we are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good evening everyone! I pray that you are all feeling great today.
I missed y'all yesterday but guess what! I was celebrating my baby boy! I gave him his Kindergarten graduation via Zoom.
After his celebration (which was amazing by the way), was over, I thought to myself I am going to share with you all my view on the importance of celebrating accomplishments even though we're in a pandemic.
This pandemic has affected everything, and everyone, especially our youth and their schooling.
For my son, and so many other children they had to abruptly go from seeing their friends, teachers, and school daily to being stuck at home. They went from getting interaction with several people to the same people day in and day out.
Our children had to become resilient! Taking all of the drastic changes in stride became their new normal. For that alone, they needed to be celebrated! Whether finishing Kindergarten like my son, middle school, or high school, celebrating their accomplishment was paramount!
Celebrating Claven's graduation made me think about all the victories that need to be celebrated. We are ALL impacted by this unfortunate virus but we have birthdays, graduations, weddings, and more that need celebrating.
I have seen many people do drive-by celebrations and thought to myself "how awesome"! They did not allow this virus to dampen their spirits and stop their reasons to smile.
Covid-19 should not stop joyous days and occasions. It is important to still celebrate occasions both big and small! Take the time to plan virtual celebrations, small occasions for those who live in your home and drive by celebrations too! Make sure to smile, despite anything that is going on during this pandemic.
Make every day a big deal if you want to. Do not stop celebrating the victories you have. From waking up in the morning to a major feat, celebrate.
Remember, we are in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good evening 🌃 , I hope that you are all well!
I was on social media this morning and saw a quote by B.E. Frank that says quieting the mind can trigger a trauma response. This post almost smacked me backward off my chair! I don't have enough extremities to tell you how many times I have experienced this.
Having several mental health diagnoses including CPTSD makes it very hard to sit with a quiet mind. For some, sitting in the stillness and quiet can be very relaxing, soothing if you will. For some like myself, quieting the mind brings a lot of inner chaos. This is not to say that it is not a good idea to try it; it's to raise awareness that doing so can sometimes be very uncomfortable.
Some of the trauma responses that I experience from quieting the mind are intense hyper-vigilance, rocking/leg shaking, becoming overly aware of my surroundings, and almost expecting something bad to happen. One of the suggestions given to me by my Therapist is to set a timer. Setting an alarm for time frames (ie. 3-5 minutes at most) makes quieting the mind and handling the emotions easier.
Other points to remember are that:
If you recognize your trauma responses from quieting the mind, it is a great idea to write them down and speak to your Therapist about it. If you would like to learn more about quieting your mind and also gain some beneficial tips, click here: https://www.heysigmund.com/dealing-with-anxiety-anxious-mind-calm/.
Remember, you always have a voice here at A.B.I.T.S. We are in this together. There is ALWAYS A Blessing in The Storm ⛈.
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Good evening, I hope that you are all refreshed and well today!
Today has been a challenging day for me. I am in good spirits but have come to learn about some health issues that are affecting my daily life. I have tons of tasks that need to be taken care of to get matters in order. Although I never spoke on it, being in physical pain the last few weeks has worn on me both mentally and emotionally. I am not one to complain, so I usually suffer in silence. Silent suffering, however, does not make living with mental health diagnoses any easier. It heightens anxiety and irritability, it also increases hyper vigilance due to PTSD and depression. I do not speak much on these factors for fear of sounding like I am complaining.
Today, it dawned on me that I have not spoken about is how brave and important it is to speak about mental health concerns and diagnoses to loved ones, online, and social media platforms. If you are silently suffering from a mental health concern but are choosing not to speak on it for fear of stigma, backlash, or just do not want to seem like you are "complaining", I want to tell you that You have a place to open up and speak about it here.
It is a brave action to speak outwardly about mental health diagnoses. It is important if, for no other reason, you never know who else is silently suffering. When I decided to start A.B.I.T.S, I thought to be transparent in my journey would be awesome. I felt like people who knew me would get a chance to understand the reasons for some of my past behaviors and choices in addition to better understanding me now. I also felt like people who didn't know me would get a chance to see mental illness is more common than we think.
As days went by, I realized some people were benefitting from hearing my journey. My goal then became to encourage and inspire others; even if it was just one person. If sharing my journey would make the difference for one new person a day, and stopped them from making a life-altering decision because they had someone they can relate to or felt like they were understood, then I would be happy.
If you have a journey that you are sharing with loved ones and across different social media platforms, I commend your bravery. Such important acts help to make it easier for others to embrace their mental health struggles and inspire others to get the healing that they not only need but deserve.
We are all in this together. I am looking forward to hearing your stories of healing and overcoming the stigma of mental health diagnoses. Sharing my journey is my act of bravery and importance. Healing will be my reward, but my journey is my Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good afternoon and happy Sunday everyone, I pray that your week has been well. I pray that you are all refreshed and motivated for this upcoming week!
Today I am going to discuss the beauty in resilience. As we are faced with many calamities in the world right now, we have all survived! We really must pat ourselves on the back. We have survived a worldwide pandemic, riots, police brutality, and systemic racism. We have shown such resilience in the face of horrible leadership in our offices and world leaders. We have been resilient in losing loved ones to a killer virus.
Despite all of the misfortune that has surrounded us, we have survived. There are many reasons we have to be proud and resilience is one of the most beautiful ones.
I saw a quote by Jamais Cascio that says: "Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected, sustainability is about survival, and the goal of resilience is to thrive." This quote says a lot about us as a society. We are showing up and showing out! We are standing up for our rights, against oppression, racism, and unfair treatment. This is us being resilient and showing our tenacity for life.
There is so much beauty is our resilience. We are not simply surviving. We are going back to some semblance of normalcy. We are not laying down in defeat in the wake of these unfortunate events. There is much to be said about how well we are handling the stressors we face daily.
In having severe anxiety, PTSD, and major depressive disorder, it can be hard to find the resilience I need to push forward; somehow, I still manage to do so. Daily I have to be mother, daughter, sister, and friend. I have to motivate myself and my son. I have to find words to encourage others when I do not feel very encouraged myself. This is a part of my journey and I am thankful for it.
As we go into this week ahead, I would like to remind you all that you are blessed. You have a lot that you can and will accomplish. You are resilient and I love you all!
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Remember, we are in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing in The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good afternoon everyone. 🌞What a beautiful day outside! I pray that you all are feeling blessed and well!
Today is ALL ABOUT YOU! I am interested in what is on your minds. What would you like to share with me? I am here to listen to you. Whether you want to share good news, thoughts or even ask questions, please click the PURPLE button below. It will direct you to today's post on Facebook where you can share with me! Remember, we are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Hello! Thank you for joining me again here at A.B.I.T.S. I cannot put into words just how much it means to me that you all are coming along with me on this journey of healing but also gaining some healing, resources and knowledge as well!
I have talked a lot about a variety of different topics ranging from world current events, mental and physical health and more. Today I am going to highlight one of the most important topics (in my opinion) to date: Children.
As a single Mother diagnosed with different mental health diagnoses, I tend to want to be as perfect as I can be for my son. Let me say, there is no such thing as perfect; (to read more about the perfectionism habit, refer to the blog from 6/7/2020). Some days it seems like a breeze when others feel like I am dragging my feet; BOTH instances, my Son loves me unconditionally and still treats me as if I am the best aspect of his world! This just shows me how resilient children are. They are intelligent little people who try to figure out this crazy world that we are living on their own. Children are quick witted, honest, and absolutely the best part of us as parents.
One of the things that this pandemic has taught me is a little more patience. It has opened my eyes to just how MUCH attention, love, and care that my son needs during the day. From the time he wakes up to the time he goes to sleep, his mind is working, he wants to play all day, and have all my attention which can be hard to accommodate every day. However, that is not the case, it is merely habit that I have developed as a result of him being in school all day and being used to having that time to myself that I tell myself some days it is hard or not possible to fit it all in.
A lot of times as parents, we get caught up in daily routines and it seems almost impossible to get a moment to ourselves, make time to play and interact with our children so often throughout the day. Fact of the matter is still that they need and crave that attention, love, care, and time regardless of what we think we must get done.
Children are vital to our world, now and in the future. I saw an article that said, “Bringing up children is the most important and complex job you’ll ever have. If they know they are loved and cared for, and you keep them safe there are very few absolute rights and wrongs about bringing up children. However, there are some important things to keep in mind:
After reading this article it gave me reassurance that even when it does not feel like it, I am doing a great job, especially as a single Mother. It reassured me that even when the days get long and I feel like I don’t know where the time to just let down and play will come from because of a full schedule, it will be there if I make the time. As a result of this, I decided that I will make a schedule for myself. A schedule where I can tend do my needs but more importantly meet my Son’s needs, play with him and give him the attention that he not only needs but DESERVES.
After deciding the schedule routine for myself and my son, I got to thinking how many other Mother’s may feel overwhelmed or like they do not have time to do it all. How many parents overall are running out of things to do with their children because there are only so many times, we can do the same range of activities and watch the same shows right?
I became motivated to make sure that A.B.I.T.S. has a resource for both parents and children alike. Starting today, yes that is right TODAY, I now have a children’s corner! As parents you will be able to click the children’s corner link at the top of the page and get direct access to FREE activities for children including crafts, DIY activities, family activities and even coloring pages.
It is my hope that this additional resource makes fitting in the extra time for fun activities with your little ones easier and gives you some time to yourself when need be. I will be incorporating more children’s resources soon.
So, today, hug your little ones and tell them you love them, be kind to yourselves even if it seems like you’re not a perfect parent and remember we are in this together and there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good afternoon! 🌞 What a beautiful day out! I pray that you all have been having a day full of blessings and happiness. I am blessed to see another day.
I want to pose some questions to you all. How do you know when you need to recharge? What are your telltale signs that it is time for you to withdraw from the monotony of everyday tasks and just take the time you need for YOU?
Studies have shown that stress is one of the top causes of death. So taking the necessary time to recharge ourselves is crucial to our mental and physical well-being. It could be the very act that stops us from experiencing fatal health issues.
For many of us, it's not always easy to just step away from our priorities. We feel mentally AND physically tired but we still keep going. Some of the benefits of taking the time to recharge yourself include:
For more information on reducing stress and how to recharge, visit: https://selecthealth.org/blog/2018/04/5-reasons-why-you-need-to-recharge-on-a-regular-basis.
I have so many things going on within this week alone that it almost seemed impossible to find a day where I could recharge; however, I have plenty of time to do so, even if it means taking just 15 minutes at a time here and there. So I am going to take some time to recharge today. I am going to journal every day when I take some time for myself so I can see what worked the best and made me feel more mentally alert and well. I would like for you all to take some time to recharge as well. We are all in this together and please remember, there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good morning and Happy Sunday everyone. I missed you all yesterday! I hope that your day has started blessed and phenomenally well.
I saw the picture for today's blog in my Neuroflow app and felt it would be great for today's entry: Progress Not Perfection. We often set goals and place unrelenting standards on ourselves to achieve these goals in a time frame that is sometimes not feasible. I am guilty of doing this myself. It is a habit called perfectionism.
** per·fec·tion·ism /pərˈfekSHəˌnizəm/noun refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.**
The issue with perfectionism is that it works until it doesn't. I stress to you today that this is a habit that causes and increases anxiety. To reduce the anxiety that comes as a result of the standards we are placing on ourselves, we need to incorporate positive self-talk. Reminding ourselves that we are doing great, celebrating the small steps forward, and being kind to ourselves, greatly reduces anxiety and stress which can lead to more severe health issues further down the line.
A few ways to increase your self-kindness and reduce stress are:
Practicing acts of self-kindness and positive self-talk change your whole mindset. It allows you to see that you are doing more than what you thought. For more information and tips to implement self-care to your daily routine visit:
Today I am starting a week-long challenge and am inviting you all to take part. This is a daily self-care challenge. I challenge you to keep a daily log of the self-care and self-kindness acts that you perform. Whether small or big, it all counts!
There are a few last things I would like to add today; With this being the start of my self-care campaign, I am making some changes to our blog schedule at A.B.I.T.S. I will now be blogging four days a week (Mon, Wed, Fri, and Sun). You will still get the transparency of this journey, have access to some amazing recipes, resources, and new features to be added soon!
There is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good Morning and Happy Friday to you all! I hope that today you all woke up happy, physically, and mentally well, and can recognize the blessings in your life.
Today I am going to B.R.A.G. about God. Yes, that's right, B.R.A.G!
Some of you may be wondering what that means. Well to B.R.A.G. means to BOAST RADIANTLY ABOUT GOD.
As I am going through a few experiences medically, and they are disheartening, frustrating, and scary, God is still blessing me! I woke up this morning when others didn't. I have a family and support system that loves, cares for me, and keeps motivating me to succeed and heal.
I know that a lot is going on in the world and our personal lives. I know that it is a scary time and is sometimes easy to lose sight of all we have to be thankful and happy about. During turbulent times, it is easy to lose sight of the fact that there is always A Blessing In The Storm⛈...ALWAYS...
Today I am asking YOU, what do you have to B.R.A.G about? What are you thankful for? What would you like to share?
Share with us what you have to be thankful for. Share with us how you're feeling and how ABITS can further motivate you to find the goodness in every day. We are all in this together.
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Good afternoon 🌤 everyone! I pray that you are all feeling well and mentally strong 💪🏽.
Today I want to talk about kindness to self. I suffer from mental health illness due to trauma. As a result, I can always find fault in some way with even the smallest 👌detail, and being kind to myself falls very low on the priority list.
People from all walks of life have been diagnosed with mental health illnesses such as anxiety, PTSD, major depressive disorder, etc., and that makes it extremely hard to function most days. Couple in the traumatic experiences we are facing as a nation, and that increases the severity of emotions we experience daily.
As we are quarantined, sitting with our thoughts daily, I'd like to remind everyone to try and be kind to yourself. We can be cruel to ourselves and not even realize it. Witnessing this can be hard For those around us.
For anyone suffering from mental health diagnoses as I do, I say to you: THIS WORLD NEEDS YOU. You are amazing and will accomplish great things. Be patient with yourself. Practice self-care as often as you need to. Try not to sweat the small things that are beyond your control, and most importantly, be kind to yourself.
I'll end by saying that I support you. We are in this together. Remember, there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good afternoon everyone. I pray that you are all safe, well, and blessed 🙏🏽. When I awoke today, part of me was extremely happy to wake up and see another day and part of me sad because I know that we are in a state of unrest as a nation. In other words, I felt sunny and partly cloudy 🌤.
Something was different about today though. I woke up and saw on the news that there is a global movement. Across the WORLD, there is mass support of Black Lives Matters and it sparked something within me. It invoked a bigger sense of HOPE. To know that the cause of the African American race expands outside the United States of America, it now seems that across the globe people are beginning to understand that we have strength in unity.
On social media and other forms of media outlets, I see people express how Black lives matter, and it is met with a flurry of hateful comments, disdain, and the remark that all lives matter. Today I saw a quote that says "All lives cannot matter until Black lives matter". Now to me, this speaks volumes. It is not to say that all lives do not matter. The issue at hand is the fact that Black men, women, and children are being killed at alarming rates by police. Those very same police officers who were sworn in and took an oath to "protect and serve".
As a race, and as far back as we can remember, Blacks have been mistreated, killed, made to hate one another, or worse. Our men were raped by slave owners in front of the other male slaves to show dominance and instill fear (also known as buck breaking or breaking the buck). Slave masters also forced some of the male children to have intercourse with their mothers to procreate (hence the expletive term motherf***er). Black slaves were sometimes beheaded and then stuffed and hung in the slave owners' quarters like trophies. The list goes on and on. So the incidents that we are seeing across our nation today are the unfortunate cries and actions of desperation because people are tired. People are tired of trying to talk and peacefully get results.
While I do not condone the acts of self-destruction, I do understand the emotional plight that has led to such acts. I stand firm in my belief that if we come together, use our voices and use our votes to make a difference, we can begin to see change. Until we see more people of color in offices and positions of power, there will be slim to no chance of the change we need. There is a long road ahead but we can get there. We must come together and stick together. We must be unified in our attempts to make change happen. Most importantly, we must have faith and patience in knowing that while there will be push-back, uncomfortable tension, and hatred that may come, we serve a mighty God. Nothing is bigger than Him. We have strength in unity and it is that unity that will cause us to see a great difference in the world.
Let's work to be unified, let's make sure we get to the polls and vote and remember there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good afternoon everyone. I hope that you all are having a better today than yesterday.
I promised you all transparency in this journey and that is what I am going to give you. Today, I am not feeling the best. As a nation, we have been traumatized. As an African American Woman and Mother with PTSD, I have been re-traumatized. I need to recharge and regroup so I am better for the next blog.
I'll share the quote of the day I have chosen to share for today. "Sometimes the best way to regroup is to unplug". So today, I am going to unplug 🔌. I am going to regroup, ground myself, and just be present in the moments of my day.
I pray that any of you out there who need to unplug 🔌, you do so, and know that it is okay. We are in this together. Be well, stay safe, and remember, there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good afternoon 🌞everyone. I pray that today you are all feeling blessed and inspired.
I must say that this morning when I woke up, I was overwhelmed. I was overcome with sadness 😢 and also a sense of hope 😇. To say that my anxiety was high would simply be an understatement.
Yesterday as we watched in horror the things that we were seeing on the television, I understood. I understand that people are tired, they have reached the end of the rope and feel like there is nothing left to do but riot, fight and show that we are not going to stand idly by any longer while the lives of black men, women and children are senselessly taken in unimaginable numbers. I also understand that the actions displayed are just what the failed leadership is expecting of us. It is disheartening and also very real.
Instead of letting that feeling overcome me, I decided to watch an online church service and remind myself that there is something good in this day. After getting a good word, soothing my spirit some and enjoying some time with my loved ones, I came across a quote that said "When I is replaced with WE, even illness becomes WELLNESS".
The reality is that we have to come together as a nation to make a change. In order for us to really be heard and seen then we have to use our voices, use our platform! We have to VOTE.
I want to uplift you all today. I want to remind you all that we have a voice. We can come together and vote to make a change that we NEED. Let's all stop thinking in terms of "I" and start thinking as "WE" 📢📢. Let's all come together and VOTE 🗳📮.
Today, try to find something to smile about and remember there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good afternoon everyone! I am praying that you are all blessed and as well as can be today!
This morning, my 6 year old son, said "Mommy! What am I supposed to do? There is a police behind me." Now let me say, he was playing pretend, but that was a heartbreaking and pivotal moment for me as a Mother. More specifically as a Mother to an African American male. This one moment that was literally seconds, felt like time was standing still. My small child who doesn't have a full awareness of what is happening in the world, who has no idea of the fact that he is perceived as a threat simply by the color of his skin asked a question playfully that unfortunately is our reality.
As a nation we are scared. We are tired of being violated and killed. We are ready for a change.
Our Country right now is in an uproar. Just watching the news is a traumatic experience! We are living in a time where it looks like life is literally in reverse. Civil rights are being violated by the very same people who are sworn to protect and serve them. We have a leadership system that is FAILING from the top down and it is painfully obvious that a complete overhaul needs to take place so we can begin to see some of the changes in place to protect our liberties.
I saw a quote that said: "Bad leaders care about WHO is right. Good leaders care about WHAT is right". Right now, our country is led by someone who cares more about looking right than actually doing what is right and it has taken a very horrible toll on our country.
For all of us who are ready for change, pray for change and want change. I say 📢VOTE! Vote because Change CAN happen. We have POWER in our votes. We have to get out and make sure that we use our ballots to make a difference. if you cannot physically go then vote by mail 📮.
If you are a first time voter or just became of legal voting age and aren't sure where to begin or what steps to take, please visit: www.vote.org.
Let's all do our part to ignite the change we need starting from the White House down through all of our states and cities.
📢Let's make sure to vote!📢
Please remember that there is A Blessing In The Storm ⛈ and HOPE in our votes🗳. ~Shoshana
YAY🌷 It's #SaturdayVibes 😎
We want you to wake up today and feel the warm fresh air (yes, get outside if you can’t, EVEN if that equates to opening a window). Feel that #flow of fresh air on your skin - having #depression can be such an everyday #struggle for those of us who suffer from its sneak attacks. Am I right? Trust me; we’ve been there. #DepressionSucks 😢
Sometimes you HAVE to reach out and do something different and so minor to get yourself out of the bed, and I don't care how slight it may seem to the world, but one step towards a positive headspace is an enormous achievement for you. An accomplishment you should reward yourself for doing! We’re already clapping for you. 🙌🏽
Mental health experts always say that a healthy support system is necessary for healing, and I used to say,” Well, what if I don't have one?!” Because I just didn't. 👩🏻 👩🏽🦱 Then I kept reaching out, forcing myself not to give up in finding my #tribe - Guess what?! I finally found them—little by little, year over year. There are not that many natives in my tribe, but that's the beauty of it; they're mine, and they support, encourage, and biggest of all, understand ME!
You will find your tribe too. I’m putting it out into the universe. Try texting old friends, ask how they're doing. Be interested in their lives and when you find someone being receptive towards you then continue to communicate with them on a daily or weekly basis - maybe it's just by text, but after a while, you will see who's on your team and who just doesn't make the same time or effort.
To be successful at anything, being consistent is critical, and that goes for friendships as well. I challenge you to pray 🙏🏼 on it, regardless of your religion. Pray and ask #God to lead you towards the people that will show caring, loving comfort, and support to you. They will start showing up, and most likely, it won’t be who you think, so have an open mind.
Good friendships are a two-way street, and it took me many years to find my tribe because I didn't stop. And trust me, it was not easy. But the bottom line is that we all need friends and support. It's vital to heal and move forward from the grips of despair. Isolation is NOT your friend. You got this; I know you can do it!
Now GO find your TRIBE! Happy Saturday! ~Tara Dallara
Good afternoon and Happy Friday everyone! I hope that your day has been amazing thus far.
So as you know, today is Just Share Friday and there is a LOT to share and talk about.
I want to say first that I am so thankful for you all. Your support and amazing feedback gives me extra motivation to keep this blog going!
Today I want to recap a bit of from a previous topic on the country reopening. I know there is a lot of controversy as people are tired of being quarantined, out of work and overall feeling "stuck". Some some are really losing a lot as they are out of work and or business closing and I get the frustration. What I do not understand is the lack of understanding that potentially and presumably will have such a devastating effect if we continue to reopen too soon.
As of today, in NJ there is a schedule for daycare centers to reopen, non-contact sports will resume and more within the next week.
As I stated before, I have survived being infected with Covid-19 as did my 6 year old son and I am fearful of reopening before the time is right. I do know we cannot be quarantined forever but think it is simply still too soon.
With that being said, I'd like to know what are YOUR thoughts and feelings about the country reopening? How do you feel you or your family and communities will be affected?
Please leave your comments below and remember, there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good morning 🌤everyone! I hope your days have started off blessed! I am doing pretty good this morning myself. I was asked by someone what PTSD meant to me and how was I diagnosed with it being that I am so young. So today I am going to breakdown PTSD and delve a little into how it has shaped who I am.
I was the victim of a very traumatic experience when I was only 5 years old. Although I did not know it then, I was immediately a victim and survivor who would have PTSD for the rest of my life.
I want you all to know that as a single Mother diagnosed with Complex PTSD along with other mental diagnoses, some days are extremely difficult to navigate through. I have a determination and faith in God however that gives me strength to fight through those days and keep pushing.
I have compiled some information for you below in hopes that you all have a better understanding of PTSD, will be able to recognize if you have it and know that it is okay! There is a lot of stigma, especially in the African American community over mental health and a lot of mental health diagnoses go untreated.
PTSD n. Short for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. (Oxford dictionary)
WHAT IS PTSD?
“PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that can occur in people who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event such as a natural disaster, a serious accident, a terrorist act, war/combat, rape or other violent personal assault.”
Symptoms of PTSD fall into four categories. Specific symptoms can vary in severity.
PTSD has been known by many names in the past, such as “shell shock” during the years of World War I and “combat fatigue” after World War II. PTSD does not just happen to combat veterans. PTSD can occur in all people, in people of any ethnicity, nationality or culture, and any age. PTSD affects approximately 3.5 percent of U.S. adults, and an estimated 1 in 11 people will be diagnosed with PTSD in their lifetime. Women are twice as likely as men to have PTSD.” Excerpt from Psychiatry.org
In a normal situation, the brain will switch the body from "survival mode" to a state of restoration, but PTSD is when that switch never occurs, leaving the survivor in a constant state of emergency. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder can happen in the aftermath of any traumatic experience, and it is for this reason that 7 out of 10 psychologically abused women develop PTSD. Veterans who return from war with PTSD suffer from the same disorder to the same severity as many victims abused in their own homes.”
Typically, when our fight or flight is triggered our brains go from reactive to responsive and things continue as usual. With PTSD, the shift from reactive to responsive never occurs. Instead the reptilian brain holds the survivor in a reactive state. Excerpt taken from: FreedomK9project.com.
For even more information on PTSD, please visit the websites referenced above.
We are in this together. If after reading today’s blog you feel like you or someone you know may have PTSD, please feel free to reach out to the resources available to begin the healing process. Remember, there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good afternoon everyone! I hope that your days have been going extremely well!
I want to take some time today to remind everyone that it is okay to take a break.
With the busy schedule that I have had over the last few weeks, I have had little time to just take a break. With that being said today is break day! I will be taking some time to practice some self care and relax.
ABITS will be back tomorrow with a new blog and more! In the meantime, click the Recipe Corner tab and check out our new, delicious recipe!
Also, make sure to practice some self care and TAKE A BREAK!
I look forward to updating you tomorrow with a new blog. Remember there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good afternoon 🌞 and Happy Tuesday to you all! I pray that you all have been having an amazing day thus far and are feeling blessed!
Today I will be talking about the importance of keeping up on your health and wellness. I know for some, you are at your optimal peak of health and wellness routines but for others (myself included in others), it is not that simple. There are days when we go all day without eating and exercising of some sort and a lot of times where we neglect ourselves by not taking the proper time needed to visit our doctors for well or sick visits because we are just "too busy",
Today as I was preparing my son and I for his 6 year well visit, I got to thinking of how important health and wellness is. It is one thing to practice self care but it needs to go hand in hand with wellness.
Health and wellness has always been essential but now more than ever, we are seeing first hand just how important it is to keep up with it. With people across the world succumbing to Covid-19 at alarming rates, especially those with comorbidity and underlying health conditions, it makes me wonder just how well are we really caring for ourselves? How much knowledge do people have of the benefits of making sure to make and keep regularly scheduled wellness visits, making sure to see a doctor if something is ailing and not always hoping that it gets better.
Making sure to keep a balanced diet, doing some form of exercise, keeping up with doctor and routine well visits as well as practicing self care are all so important. Combining all of those aspects will not only help to keep us in optimal physical health but also mental health. It is no secret that when we don't feel well physically, we do not feel well mentally.
I am not saying that just because we feel well physically, we will feel well mentally as there are other factors (i.e.: mental illness diagnoses) BUT I am saying that combining both physical and mental well being helps to contribute to overall better mental health. It is my goal to encourage you all as well as myself to stay motivated and healthy. I will be adding a new challenge this week to promote health and wellness overall. I hope that you all join in!
If you aren't sure where to begin, I have placed some tips for self care and wellness below.
SELF CARE TIPS
1. Taking a brisk walk
2. Listening to your favorite song/music
3. Treating yourself to a mani/pedi
4. Spending time with self (reading, writing)
5. Scheduling the Dr. appt. you have been putting off
Please join me for a wellness challenge this week and remember, there is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~ Shoshana
Good Morning 🌤 happy Monday and a great Memorial Day to you all.
Today I want to acknowledge a very special Man in my life. My Father, Army Major John H. Gillespie. He was killed in the Persian Gulf War on February 17, 1991. I’ll never forget the impact he had on my life and honor him and his memory today and always.
In just 8 days after his death, I had a current events assignment due at school, so needless to say, I centered my assignment around him. You can see pictures of the original news article from the Philadelphia Inquirer in the photo gallery on the home page.
His legacy didn’t end however; there is an award named in his honor. It is called the Major John H. Gillespie Intern Award. This award, named in his honor, a BAMC anesthesiologist who was killed in Saudi Arabia during Operation Desert Storm, recognizes excellence in medical knowledge, clinical judgment and medical ethics.
So this Memorial Day I’d like to recognize and honor my father and all of the other fallen soldiers and heroes of combat and non-combat alike. ~Shoshana
Good morning ☀️ and happy Sunday everyone. I hope you all are well today and feeling blessed!
Today I am feeling alright. Not good, not bad but alright. I have a lot to be thankful for and also a lot on my mind.
Today, I want to talk about our churches reopening. I will say that I personally believe that faith and a relationship with God are essential BUT that does not mean that I have to attend a building in order to exhibit said relationship and faith.
One of the statements I heard this week was from a church that a close friend of mine attends. What was said by the Pastor was “the church is open but the building is closed”. That statement is so pivotal to me.
That’s not to say that I do not look forward to returning to my church building to worship as one with my Pastor, Father Stephen Thorne who is AMAZING by the way, but it DOES mean that I am not willing to put myself, my son or loved ones in harms way. With the current President stating that churches are essential businesses and are to reopen, he’s being careless and in my eyes greedy. The fact is that the churches have never closed. Regardless of your faith or denomination, the church has always been open. The building was closed but a building is just a building. When you have God in your heart, faith & a strong personal relationship with God, you can ALWAYS have church.
After watching someone that I deeply cared for and loved decline and pass away in a matter of two weeks, I can say that I KNOW FIRST HAND what this virus can do and I simply disagree with reopening the church buildings at this time.
As someone who survived being infected with COVID-19, I will NOT be attending my church building nor will my Son. I have to be honest and say that my personal feeling and belief is that it is simply too soon and not the right time.
After being re-traumatized severely by this virus, I will not put myself or anyone else at risk by making careless decisions. After my son and I having mild symptoms, disinfecting and sanitizing all surfaces in the home until my hands were raw to the touch and incessant worrying, I cannot bring myself to gather in a group before it is time.
My Mother is the Music Director at our church Parrish and with her having to go back to work in just a couple of weeks, I am terrified. I am terrified for her health/safety, our health/safety and the health and safety of my entire church family as well as others all across the globe.
I pray daily for not just myself and my family but for our country as a whole. I pray that people know and understand that we are all the church. I miss my church family and miss being able to worship with them every Sunday but until we are able to safely congregate together, I will continue to pray daily, watch Father Thorne deliver sermons online and continue to strengthen my faith in God.
My questions to you all are: How do you feel? Do you feel it is time to return to the church buildings? What effect do you think opening the church doors to congregate in groups will have on our society? Please comment your answers below.
Remember: There is always A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good Morning ☀️ and Happy Saturday everyone! I hope that you all are feeling great today. Despite feeling a little down today, I want to remind not just myself but all of you that it is important to smile and laugh even though you’re in the midst of a storm ⛈. Times get hard, depression occurs, anxieties rise, panic ensues but through it all try to find a reason to smile 😊. Now more than ever we as a country need healing. Those of us with PTSD, Anxiety, Major Depressive Disorder, Bipolar Disorder or those affected by Domestic Violence and other forms of abuse can sometimes forget there are rainbows in storms. Life isn’t always easy but at some point of every day there is a reason to smile or laugh. Today I wanted to share some of the moments from this last month that have made me smile and laugh. I hope they bring a smile or laugh to you all as well! Please remember: There is A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
I want to emphasize that now more than ever we need healing in our country. This global pandemic is affecting so many people. There are men, women and children who are increasingly being abused by partners and parents.
For some, going to school or work was their only time away from a home filled with verbal, emotional and physical abuse. As a result of now being quarantined with others who are causing them harm, there are more reported incidents, reports that are going unnoticed and undocumented because victims are fearing for their lives and also more deaths and deaths by Suicide. I want to highlight that there are some resources for victims that they may not be aware of or ways to garner the attention that they need without alerting their abusers.
One of the avenues a victim can take us to download an app called “Aspire News”. This app was created by Robin McGraw, Wife of Dr. Phil. This app is multifaceted. It does give summaries of the top news around the world but in the “help” section, there is a resource for domestic violence victims. It was rated one of the two best apps for domestic violence prevention last year.
I want to highlight that while domestic violence is NOT the only cause for increased deaths by Suicide it does play a factor. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S.
It is important that not only the victims but family, friends and loved ones of victims recognize the signs of violence happening and know the resources available so they too can step up and help.
If you are not able to or are not sure that someone you know have access or capability to download the aspire app, you can click under the resource center tab on this website and click directly onto thehotline.org and also the National Suicide Prevention websites for more resources and help options.
The following numbers are direct lines to the domestic violence and suicide prevention hotlines:
Domestic Violence Hotline: (1-800)799-7233
Suicide Prevention Hotline:
A.B.I.T.S will always stand up for what is right, be a voice for the voiceless and advocate for those in need. No matter the situation, we are in this together. Please never forget, there is A Blessing In The Storm. ~Shoshana
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As you all know on Saturday, April 18, 2020, I lost my boyfriend due to Covid-19 complications. He was the Director of Housekeeping at a nursing home here in South Jersey. His biggest fear during this pandemic was to become infected with this virus and possibly pass it on to his loved ones to which both happened. He was petrified going into work daily but felt he had a duty to not just the residents but to his staff who were putting themselves at risk daily. This pandemic is affecting everyone, traumatizing everyone in multiple ways and no one’s efforts, contributions or work should go unrecognized. So today I’d like to take a moment and say THANK YOU to all of the front line workers. Not only Doctors and Nurses but hospital and Nursing home environmental staff, grocery store employees, truck drivers, farm workers, Policemen and women and so many more who are going unnoticed or are being undervalued at this time. I can only imagine how much anxiety, PTSD and other traumatic experiences and feelings you deal with daily. From A Blessing In The Storm, THANK YOU! You are appreciated!!
With the current state of our country amid the pandemic, it is easy to lose sight of all that we actually have to be thankful for. It is easy to focus on the setbacks and things that make us unhappy. If you’re like I am and suffer with different mental diagnoses, sometimes it is easier to shut down or ruminate on the thoughts that send us into a downward spiral of negativity. TODAY however, I am reminding myself that I have a LOT to be thankful for! I survived Covid-19 (which as we know is killing people in droves), I have a beautiful little boy who motivates me daily to heal, be and do better, an amazing village surrounding and supporting us and I have faith! So despite all that is happening around me and out of my control, I am thankful to be alive and able to share this journey with all of you. What are YOU thankful for today? Please feel free to comment below and always remember: there is A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
This is something VERY IMPORTANT that I think people should know. Speaking from my own personal experience I have had to learn this the hard way. I went into my outpatient IOP program thinking as each day went on, everything would just get easier and I would just automatically feel better. That’s not how it went and to this day NOT how it goes. One of the things that my Psychiatrist and Therapist at program and even still currently told/tell me is that “Healing is not linear”. There is no magic wand to make it happen overnight. I’ve been through things, others have gone and go through things. The brain AND the body BOTH have memory. It is important to know there will be ups and downs, highs and lows. Be PATIENT with yourself, be KIND to yourself, be CARING with yourself and something that I have trouble with and am sure many others do but VERY IMPORTANT: be EMPATHETIC with yourself. ~Shoshana #WereInThisTogether #MentalHealthAwareness #Anxiety #PTSD #SurvivingToThriving #MDD #BPD #Covid19Survivor #ABlessingInTheStorm 📸Courtesy of Google
I’d like to preface today’s blog by saying: I know a lot of women are going through life every single day with smiles on their faces and are highly functional, successful, and you would NEVER KNOW they are dying inside. I know this because I am one of them. In case you are wondering just HOW I ended up diagnosed with different mental disorders, spawning this mental health journey and website creation, I will be sharing my entire journey in a book that I am writing.
Losing my boyfriend to Covid-19, and fearing for the lives of my son and myself after testing positive this past year was the straw that brought me closer to God, and gave me a purpose to want to help others through their journey. This blog has been therapeutic and my book will be healing for many.
I look at my 6-year old son and am motivated and grateful every day for life! These mental conditions and experiences that have increased in severity started when I was just a child. But through these experiences, I have been blessed with my baby and HE was the main motivation in starting the healing process. It is my sincere promise that I will do my best to encourage and inspire others who need to know there is A Blessing In The Storm.
Again, I thank you for joining me on this journey and I’d love if you stay tuned for my upcoming book, inspirational events and more to come! ~Shoshana
This is our challenge for the week! If you haven’t subscribed to my website yet, make sure to submit your infor below. You’ll be able to stay up to date on all things #ABlessingInTheStorm including weekly self care and wellness challenges like this!
This week’s challenge: Positive Reflections! What will you tell yourself everyday and night?!
Good afternoon you guys! It has been a week since I last posted here.
I celebrated a birthday and took some time for reflection. I took some time to practice self-care and go to appointments.
Today, the beginning of a new week is a chance to reclaim any hope that you lost. It is a perfect time to remind yourself that just because you have a mental illness, it is not a personal failure.
Mental illness has been around for centuries and centuries, people have been made to feel bad as a result of different mental illness diagnoses. I am telling you today, that you are not experiencing a personal failure just because you have a mental health disorder.
I am diagnosed and classified with PTSD, generalized anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder, and panic disorder. I used to think to myself "where did my life go wrong"? In hindsight, my mental disorders began long ago in my childhood, but it wasn't until last year when I finally sought help for myself, that I realized that I refused to allow these diagnoses to define me. I am healing from the past traumas and experiences in my life that have caused these diagnoses. For a couple of them, there is no cure but that doesn't mean that I cannot heal the past scars and learn to live with them.
I am not only telling you this in transparency but also to remind any of you who are suffering from mental illness, that you do not have to suffer any longer. You are not a failure, you are not a statistic, and you are not part of the stigma. You are strong, resilient, brave, and can overcome anything.
There is a lot of turmoil that is occurring now in our country and it can sometimes get the best of us. It is okay to not be okay. Please practice self-care, be kind and gentle with yourselves, and practice self-compassion.
I pray that every single one of you starts this week off knowing that you are amazing. You are not alone in this world. We are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Happy birthday to my younger self......
God has blessed us with another trip around the ☀️! I am thankful for life, I am thankful for love ❤️, I am thankful for HEALING....... so THIS birthday 🎁 is a special one..... this is a rebirth.... the way GOD 🙏🏾 is working in my life is AMAZING! He is using me not only in my own healing but in having an outlet to help others heal.
The fact that I have survived half of what was meant to destroy me is mind blowing 🤯! I have such a purpose in this life and today is a blessing.... so happy BIRTHday to my younger self👧🏽, it starts from this moment forward darling.... fasten your boot👢 straps, let’s heal.... let’s LIVE......I Love You....
Good afternoon 🌞 everyone! How is everyone's Tuesday going so far!? Today I am talking about my health journey and why I decided to become a pescatarian.
As some of you may know, I have been dealing with some health issues (both mentally and physically). For a long time, I have been mulling over the idea of becoming vegan. I ate a few choices here and there and then would always revert right back to a regular diet of meat and other choices that were very unhealthy.
Recently, I have been dealing with physical health issues such as high blood pressure and even got a pre-diabetic test result! Talk about scary! So I started seeing a nutritionist weekly and decided that I would change my diet. Instead of committing to a completely raw vegan lifestyle, I decided to try a pescatarian diet first.
Now let me say, for me, this has been the BEST choice ever. I eat pretty much completely plant-based foods but also eat some seafood choices as well. This was the best choice for me because with having the options for seafood, I could also get some Omega-3 and minerals that I would not have with a completely vegan change.
“Compared to following a vegan diet, eating a pescatarian diet means there’s less risk of nutritional deficiencies."-https://www.sbs.com.au/food/article/2018/06/07/so-you-want-be-pescetarian-it-healthier-lifestyle
Some of the benefits of a pescatarian lifestyle that I have experienced so far are:
There are a LOT of other great benefits to a pescatarian diet. To learn more about these benefits, click the link below.
This is still a new change to me (being 1 week in), but I can already tell that this has been the best change I have made. I am scheduled for updated blood work in a few weeks so I will update you all with the internal changes that this lifestyle change has as well. I am also journaling daily, to see what changes this diet change will have on my mental health as well.
Have any of you tried a pescatarian or vegan lifestyle? For those of you who are, what benefits have you experienced?
To share your experience with a pescatarian or vegan dietary lifestyle, click the button below!
Remember, we are ALL in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
Good morning 🌞 everyone! I hope that you all are well today and feeling blessed 🙏🏽.
Today, I want to talk about faith and how it can have positive effects on healing us both mentally and physically. It is no secret that I suffer from different mental health diagnoses. I also have a few other health issues that I am dealing with; On any given day, I can have a panic attack, feel like there's always a threat, or simply feel like I cannot do anything for that day. Those are the days I must hold fast to my faith.
It is not just about seeing a therapist and doctors. For me, faith is a must. I know that it is God's blessing over the doctors who treat me and over my life that allows me to get through those moments. So without faith, the healing isn't as prosperous.
I know that some may agree with me, and others won't; for me, faith plays a huge part in healing. I have heard and seen so many people ask for prayers for their loved ones/friends who are sick, affected with ailments, and more. It shows me that others are aware of the power of faith and prayer.
I have added some of the benefits of faith and how it positively impacts mental and physical healing.
To read the full article I pulled these few benefits from, click the link below:
I say all of this to acknowledge that I recognize that faith has played a huge part in my healing thus far. I pray that anyone going through any type of ailment, whether physical or mental, continues to have, develops, or nurtures their faith in their healing.
If you want more information or have questions on faith, please click under the resource center tab. you will be able to directly contact St. Martin DePorres church💒 and also the National Black Catholic Congress who will be able to give more information.
I would love to hear your feedback on how you feel faith helps us to heal both mentally and physically. You can email me at: email@example.com or click the button below to comment directly on this post.
We are all in this together and remember, there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. Shoshana
Good afternoon everyone. I hope that you are all well today! My day has been up and down but it started productively so I am okay with that.
I am interested in how you all are doing today. So I am calling for a mental health check-in. it is time to do a check-up from the neck up! What is going on in your world today? What is good or not so good? What are you doing to deal with, deflect, or de-stress?
I hope that every one of you whether you suffer from mental illness or not, that: IT IS OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY.
Not every day will be smooth sailing and it's okay if you are not sure how to handle it. It is okay if you are having a bad moment because someone said something or did something that you dislike, your feelings are valid! It is okay to not know why you aren't okay but you just aren't.
All of that is okay. What is NOT okay is to feel like you have nowhere to turn. it is not okay to feel like this and be alone. There is nothing more terrifying than having to battle your mind daily. If you suffer from any mental illness diagnoses as I do, then you know what I mean.
You have a safe space here to access some of the resources necessary to get the help you need. You have a listening ear if you just need to vent. You can contact me directly via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
There is nothing that you cannot share here. So let's get the mental health check-in started! How are you all feeling mentally? What is triggering for you? What has made you happy? What is your de-stress tool? If you are not sure, I have chosen a picture that gives some brief tips to optimize your mental health.
I would like to hear from ALL OF YOU, comment by clicking on the button below. You will be redirected to the A.B.I.T.S. Facebook page where you can comment directly. If you would like to share in confidence, please email me at email@example.com.
Please remember we are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
Good morning 🌞! Let's get right to it today, shall we?
I start today with the definitions of purpose for one reason. I finally understand what mine is.
I have ALWAYS been the one that "friends" would call on for help in one way or another. I was always the one who would go out of my way to help others even when it wasn't asked of me. I have always been the one to put myself into precarious situations simply to help others, and it always seemed to bite me in the butt.
What I understand, however, is that My purpose IS to help others. It is just in this realm of help that I have understood my purpose.
There is a Mark Twain quote that says: “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why".
I have survived rape, different types of abuse, bullying, and different traumatic situations. I have stayed awake for days, I have sabotaged friendships and relationships alike. I have come close to death, and at one point thought life would be better off without me, yet God brought me through ALL of that. Why? Because I have a purpose.
I suffer from CPTSD, Major Depressive Disorder, General Anxiety Disorder, and panic disorder; but I am here. I am transparently sharing my healing journey, and doing all I can to advocate and provide resources and outlet for others who are also healing, looking to heal, or want to heal and do not know where to even begin.
This blog, mental health advocacy, resource center, and the book that will surely come are all a part of my purpose. It is a part of my purpose to share my testimony, and encourage others to reach and share theirs.
I want to help others to see that there is both beauty and bravery in sharing their journeys. It is brave to speak on mental health and to heal from the things that have fueled your suffering.
It is an awesome feeling to wake up and truly understand what your purpose is. I say that I do agree that the day you find out your purpose is truly one of the most important days of your life. Realizing this has motivated me to continue to push even harder to heal and learn how to progress through the rest of my life with skills that get me through the issues that are harder to heal from.
It is my goal to continue to encourage, inspire, and advocate for others to do the same.
What is your purpose? How many of you have truly found your purpose? How many of you are re-evaluating your purpose at this time? How many of you have no clue of your purpose yet? I would love to hear your answers to these questions! To comment and share your purpose and thoughts, click the button below. You will be directed to the A.B.I.T.S. Facebook page where you can comment directly on this post.
Remember, we are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈. ~Shoshana
Good afternoon 🌞! Hopefully, your days have been well so far.
My day has been interesting, and it's not even far past noon!
You all know that I have a lot happening in my personal life and that is an emotional roller coaster 🎢 most days. One of the points that get me through these times is: walk by faith, not by sight.
I am sure that you have all heard 📢👂🏽🦻🏽 that saying at one point or another in your life. This phrase means so much to me. As I get older, I understand that this is a pivotal force for survival. There will be matters, situations, and obstacles that will have you believe you will not make it through. Walking by faith means to know that despite those obstacles, you know God will bring you through. It may be uncomfortable, uneasy, and have you feel like you would like to give up: however, continue to have faith and know that you will be victorious at the end.
Walking by faith has many layers. It is not simply just a belief in God. It is a trust in Him. It is surrounding yourself with people who believe and trust in God as well. It is knowing that those people will remind you of the goodness of God when your faith even slightly wavers. It is turning towards God when you're facing despair and grief.
I find that one small saying comforting during this time in my life. Not only have I survived Covid-19 along with my son, but I am still surviving through different medical issues, scares PTSD, depression, anxiety, and other personal issues. There is no way that I would be able to do it without faith, trust in God, and an amazing support system that reminds me of the goodness and grace of God regularly!
I share this with you all today as a reminder that during your healing phase, day to day living, and obstacles you face, have faith. Walk by faith and not by sight. Lean not on your understanding. Know that whatever you see for yourself God sees a magnified version of the blessing. I share this with you as a reminder that despite anything you are facing, you are blessed and highly favored. We are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good afternoon, 🌞 I hope you are all well today.
I cannot thank you 🙏🏽all enough for the patience during these last few days of absence; it truly means a lot.
Today's blog is for those of you who are supporting others suffering from PTSD. I know that it can be an emotional roller coaster 🎢 and hard to understand why we react the way we do when situations arise. My goal today is to help you understand a little better.
What I'd like for you to do is take a moment and think of the brain as a computer 💻. Imagine a computer going offline and having no cable or internet provider to call to resolve the issue. This is what it is like for someone experiencing trauma. We are born with survival instincts and that is why the brain goes offline during trauma.
It can be extremely hard for you as a support system for someone suffering from PTSD because your brain works completely differently. Speaking from my personal experience, I am always in a state of hyper-vigilance and heightened awareness. Different traumatic experiences have made me extremely aware of others and my surroundings. I also emotionally shut down very easily. These are just examples of a few of the numerous symptoms that come with PTSD. It can be really difficult to handle and understand.
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Lastly, I want to take a moment to highlight the picture that was chosen for today's blog. You can see there are two brains pictured; one with no issues, and the other affected with PTSD. You can see the PTSD affected brain is highlighted in several different areas. I point this out to show you that it is not just one set space affected when trauma occurs. The brain becomes stressed in several areas. This is also part of the reason why people suffering from PTSD have such a wide variety of reactions and symptoms.
I stress to you to please continue to be supportive, loving, and full of patience. Those are some of the greatest gifts you can give to others dealing with PTSD and other mental health diagnoses. I am thanking my family and support system, and also all of you who are here with me for this journey to healing, and supporting others suffering from PTSD as well. Remember, we are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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Good afternoon, I hope you are having a great day!
It is no secret that when you look good, you feel good. I mean let's face it when we have great looking hair, nails, and our outfits are put together to the 9's, we feel pretty fantastic!
It is also no secret that when faced with mental duress (depression, anxiety, etc.) that we not only do NOT feel well, but we take less time to make ourselves look well. During the times we feel depressed and under mental duress is when we NEED the time for beautification.
Today I am going to talk about some of the benefits of a regular beauty routine and how it positively affects mental health.
A beauty routine is more than just hair and makeup. It is also making sure we eat better foods that have an amazing effect on our skin and physical fitness as well. Some other great benefits of a regular beauty routine are:
To read more about establishing a regular beauty and skincare routine to boost your mood and mental wellness, click here: https://www.everydayhealth.com/skin-beauty/5-reasons-maintaining-a-skin-care-routine-is-good-for-your-mental-health/#:~:text=1.,and%20routine%20of%20your%20day.
Because I am aware of just how important it is to look good and feel great, I have decided to start a beauty section! I want to make sure that you all get to have great routines to add to your day! I want you all to feel and look great. I have teamed up with Namii' Beaute to bring you awesome weekly beauty and skincare tips and tricks to boost your mood and mental wellness. Make sure to click the Namii' Beaute tab to learn more!
Remember health is wealth! We are all in this together and there is ALWAYS A Blessing In The Storm ⛈.
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